Pearls Workshop Surprised Me!

My experience in the Pearls workshop was nothing like I expected it to be.

In my head I was thinking it would just be another typical girls bible study where we would probably go through a book, maybe go around a circle and talk about what we are reading, and maybe share prayer requests now and then.

I was so wrong.

Pearls was eye opening and life changing for me. The mentors and counselors there really cared about us and had carefully planned and prayed over every single meeting. I could feel the Spirit of the Lord there.

Each week we heard amazing testimonies, had art-journal time, did visual activities to help us better understand the teachings, and had personal time with a mentor.

The message of Pearls is something that every girl should hear and be reminded of. It's all about our identity in Christ and how He truly values and sees worth in us.This workshop, as well as the Pearl
Workbook and homework, digs really deep and helped me identify the things in my life that were lies from the enemy that had taken root.

I highly encourage this workshop to any girl out there reading this.  It was a wonderful experience that I will never forget.


Jordyn-age22

Before Pearls I was.....

....... living a life of selfishness, impurity, jealousy, anger, un-forgiveness and rebellion against God, among others. When I looked in the mirror I hated what I saw, believing the lies in my head.

Feeling alone with my thoughts and most of all my feelings, I felt that no one has, will or ever will understand me.

Through my experience in Pearl Workshop I learned more about who I am in Christ and who He is. The most important letter in Pearl to me is L, which in Pearl Talk is Love. I have heard "Jesus loves you" my whole life but never really understood what it truly meant.

Everything that I felt and did in my past that made me feel broken and unwanted and misunderstood was in direct response to not knowing who He is. With this new knowledge, I am able to change the way I think, recognize the lies for what they are, and walk away from my chains and in to new freedom.

I didn't think that eight weeks could change my life but I can say with confidence that it has. I have finally surrendered my life to Christ and am taking up my cross daily to follow Him because of His beautiful sacrifice.

Tess- age 20

Threads of Grace

It's the thread of grace that holds our pearls. Yes, it's true that every place in your heart that the Father touches He leaves a pearl. But it is His grace that provides the thread on which your pearls can be secured.

Grace requires that I do this one thing: receive it and hang my life on it. In order to receive and hang my life on the grace of Christ, I must die to my self, tuck in to His presence, His light, His truth and His system of dependence. This grace system is not a grid of works, but one of freedom, joy, and Love provided through Christ's perfect work on the cross.

I know "trying harder" is a beast that's hard to die.

Someone misinterprets what you say. So try harder!
Not smart enough. So try harder!
Haven't had the energy. So try harder!
Didn't say it well. So try harder!
Someone didn't get better. So try harder!

All acts of the flesh trying to find some form of comfort in knowing we did all we could do.

"All that comforts the flesh weakens the Spirit." AW Tozer

So, about that grace. He loves me. He covers me. Forgives and Fills me. Leads me. Covers me.  Fills and Leads again. It's in the gap of realizing the depth of my capacity for insufficiency, in that moment of humanness and self- dependence, where grace waits for me to stop trying harder.  Yield. Let Go. Let Him.

But self dies hard and wants to prove something.

I have nothing on my own, therefore nothing to prove. Nothing to pull out. Nothing to hold onto- but everything grace.

Some call it sheer grace- although it's solid- not frail and thin like most would think of sheer as being, but mighty and sturdy and steady and sufficient to cover my flimsiness and prideful self-dependence. Your being able to see me, God, without wrath being unleashed against me- is grace. I remember what I am capable of without you.

The fact that you  provide this grace coverage is humbling and makes me think of Beauty and Real Love; reminds me of the frailty of life without this Real Love which would be so empty, limp, and tinny.

In Grace Alone. In Christ Alone, I pearl. What delight! 

The Highest Pleasure of My Affection

by Roxanna 

Earthly Simple Pleasures I enjoy are

• Steaming cup o' joe as soon as my feet hit the morning floor. "Morning Jesus, let's get some coffee."
• Golden glow of the light in my shabby chic hutch as I head to the coffee pot
• The fragrance of healing essential oils
• A fire crackling (although in my little apartment, it is on a tv screen and the app did not come with a crackling sound)
• Sneaking up to the back of the recliner and kissing my husband on his strong, wise, and bald head
• Pandora turned on in my purse for the world to hear None But Jesus by Hillsong- especially the morning elevator ride
• Sitting on my antique rocker, waiting. Asking for Jesus.

"No earthly pleasure is worth a defiled conscience." says Bob Sorge in his book, The Secrets of the Secret Place.

The following truths heighten my conscience at the same time they relieve it based on who He is, not my condition in the early morning hours.

• The secret of being known since before I was conceived in my mother's womb.
• Being fully received and embraced by Him, like a daughter to a daddy.
• Quenching my early morning thirst with living water full of His power, nourishment, and peace
• A hiding place that's portable. He goes with me everywhere I go and shows up as much as He is wanted.

He is my highest pursuit, my highest pleasure, and most satisfying affection. He is the only one worthy of asking for these things. No other person, place, thing, or pleasure can even come close.

I love you Jesus. I am crazy about you.

Perfect Imperfections

by Kim N.

Have you ever said things to yourself like,
"I am so stupid!"
"That was dumb!"
"Why can't I just DO this...I am so slow".

I have ...A LOT!

But I'm learning not to. I am learning to embrace my imperfections because I realized that God gave me imperfections and made me exactly the way He intended. I have a purpose and my imperfections have a purpose too. One of my imperfections is dyslexia.

I guarantee you that God was not creating me in my mom's womb laughing to himself and saying, "oh man...this will be funny. She will be clumsy have trouble in all her math classes and take twice as long than most people to finish her reading assignments. How entertaining!"

No. If I were to guess I'd say God was thinking something like this, "I will allow this imperfection because I know that one day Kim will find joy in the opportunity to depend on me more. I will allow this imperfection so that, through it, I can perfect her spirit. I will allow it so that one day while she is at work, frustrated and fumbling while trying to organize the materials in her hands and the agenda in her mind, she stops- and really begins to live, believing the fact that when she is weak, I am strong."

God has a plan and a purpose for me and my imperfections. As God's beloved daughter I am learning to rejoice in those perfect imperfections because they give me the honor of letting God's power and grace work in my life.

"My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness." 2 Corinthians 12:9

Years of Impurity

The P in Pearl stands for purity.

purity- noun 1. freedom from anything that debases, contaminates, pollutes, etc.

The goal of purity is a beautiful thing. Christian women spend countless years shaming themselves over things that made them impure, rendering herself doomed when it comes to regaining what she once had.

As a young woman who's had years of impurity, I'm here to say that purity is 100% attainable. Even if it's having to reclaim it and do this process more than once.

A process of purity begins with repentance.  Repentance leads to forgiveness, forgiveness leads to surrender, and surrender results in purity of heart.

When I was 14, I lost my virginity to a boy that I stayed with for a few years...This sin led me into a downward spiral of codependency, lust, and a huge amount of brokenness. I lived throughout high school getting in and out of relationships with boys and continued on the path of an impure life. I was under the impression that once you lose your purity, it's gone forever. I labeled myself as an unredeemable wreck, and used this as an excuse to continue on with my lifestyle.

I found myself pregnant a total of three times. I had two abortions and one miscarriage before the age of 18.

Grieving over the decisions I made helped push me to find recovery; and ultimately find truth. The more I learned the truth about purity, the more hope seeped into my shell. See, my little pearl was in a dark, uncomfortable, and parasite-filled shell. I was fed lies that I believed for years.. but JESUS taught me about who he is, and redeemed my lost time. I deserve hell, but he gives me life. I deserve all of the wrath against my sin, but he gives me grace.

Pure happens when you accept the grace that's offered up for you. It doesn't come from knowing that Jesus died for you, it's understanding why Jesus died for you, and what he saved you from. My purity doesn't come from living a sinless life, it comes from the grace of Jesus Christ.

-By Sydney

This is Rox. As I was typing in Sydney's blog, I had a revelation on this subject of purity to add to the discussion. Pure, as Sydney says in the last paragraph"comes when you accept the grace that's offered up for you." I really think it is helpful to think of pure and purity as related, but yet different things. Pure does come when we accept Jesus' perfect work on the cross for our sin. His righteousness becomes ours when we lay down our pride, repent, and accept this amazing gift.

 But purity is the way the heart  follows after Jesus who is Pure upon realizing the preciousness of the gift. One doesn't throw the gift of pure around. It is a pearl to treasure. For example, if I truly see the preciosity of the grace covering over my horrific sins, then the preciousness of Pure Jesus, who provides it, will become my everything. I will affectionately long for and cling to Pure Jesus in holy reverence, that I might not cross back over to a pattern of choosing contaminates as the above definition describes.

In short: Pure is the gift. Purity is a lifestyle of living from the connection with Jesus who placed Pure in you.

Heavenly Father, if there is someone reading this who wants to feel accepted, clean, and like she has a new start, place the pearl of your Jesus upon her heart, that she would let out the pain from her sin, cry it out onto you, and ask you for a new start.  Grace means it's never to late to change the ending to the story. Help her begin again. In Jesus name..

The Gift in Enduring

What are you enduring right now? 
Are you waiting for someone to come back?
Are you waiting for someone to finally make a decision?
Are you waiting for your circumstances to improve? Leave? Melt into the atmosphere?


Or maybe you wait to be recognized for the work you do that no one seems to notice. Maybe you're waiting on God to prove to you once again that He is real. Life and people and loved ones have disappointed you so much that you've blamed God for it all and thrown in the towel.  "It's just easier to do it myself" you might say.  Is it though?

I have endured long periods of waiting myself.  I waited for my momma to come back from the beauty shop....and she never did.  I waited for my brother to find enduring sobriety.  He never did. I waited for my father to walk into my life and introduce himself. He never did. I waited for the envelope to come with his picture in it.  The envelope came. But it was empty.  I have waited for  children to return. They come and they go and they come.  Steady.  Enduring.

It's all about me in those scenarios.  I want outcomes.  I want things to look and feel right. I want peace. I want everyone to be okay. I want to be acknowledged and validated.  I want love.

Then the dawning.

Ahhh.  Father God waits for me to realize He was there all along in my imperfect and messy life. He was waiting for me to see the reality.  See Him in the mess. Instead, I kept white knuckling my Christianity into making everything try to be presentable to people.  Oh, I knew about His involvement, and occasionally He did speak on it. But it wasn't until the day I saw the darkness of the ME in it and my incredible tenacity for being in control, that I realized...He had endured and waited for me. 

I repented of my self.

He offered me something in exchange for my repentence of self. He offered me Himself. Not just his gifts, direction, answers, and what He gives. He gave me Himself.  Everything He does came in with Him. No more picking and choosing. The Breakthrough.

I am all in.

Whether they never show up, come home, or return...whoever they are in the moment, He is enough in that moment where I must sit in it. I can endure anything in this imperfect life of dissatisfying encounters because His perfect self resides in me.

He implores me in my dissatisfying and disappointing places to Be present with Him.  I can be present. He is here! Mess or no mess!  He is sufficient in the present. He will be enough in the next present moment. It's like you just received the worst news in some of those disappointing places, and your perfect dream dad walks in the room and just sits with you and speaks hope. Can't you just sit in it with Him, and let His presence be comforting?

Purpose.

Oh, so much purpose.  His purpose is perfect for my imperfect life. His purpose is to remind me of the people, places and things I am prone to wandering off with or to instead of Him. When I do I miss His glory. His presence. His self.

He is my purpose. He is my prize. Hmmmm ...so worth the enduring. 

But the secret is this: in this way of life and knowing Him and His presence, I see  two distinct treasures.
He is the first treasure, and as I behold Him first, I see myself in his image.  And I come to know myself as His treasure. Treasure and worth are found in His image.

When I know my value, I am free to not make it about my self. It's Himself in myself looking outward.

-Roxanna Grimes

Endurance

The E in P E A R L is Endurance. A pearl's development process is an enduring one through years of resistance and irritation- and obviously takes place in a dark enclosed space- an oyster host. If we can learn to see our process like that of a pearl, we can learn to endure through surrendering imperfections and irritations to a perfect God. And on top of that- God is Father too!  So He does so with kindness, perfection, and our best interests in mind.

 

Is this real life?

 

We all want infomercials to be real, right? Am I the only one who longs for the miracle of Oxyclean doing my toughest laundry in under a minute like the time-lapse demonstration shows? Or facial cream that will tighten my slightly wrinkled face (emphasis on slightly) overnight. Am I the only one that longs for ...true confessions...a Snuggie? OK...the Snuggie is totally beside the point. (But I really do want one..)

 

Anyway, what I am getting at is that infomercial transformations like dirty clothes to clean clothes seem like miracles because they happen so fast. But they are not miracles. Most of those transformations can happen in real life...just not so quickly. Other infomercial transformations of deep wrinkles turning to flawless skin seem like miracles because they would be if they actually worked. But real life transformation, especially in the spiritual/soul department, doesn't work like infomercial transformations.

 

First, stuff doesn't happen instantly; Like my transformation from being an angry and bitter wife to a content and patient wife. Second, some stuff can't happen without divine intervention; Like my transformation from being an angry and bitter wife to a content and patient wife (More on that in future blogs). So, I guess I am thankful that I am not living an infomercial life where my spiritual transformation depends on the next trendy, man-made thing. I mean, how is a shamWOW going to help me begin to understand God's love and purpose in my life? And how is a Slapchop going to give me hope and endurance as I face the pain that transformation requires? Only my heavenly Father can do that..because He made real life. He is my creator and the creator of the world I live in. He knows exactly what my transformation requires...He planned it.

 

Romans 5:4-5 and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.

 

 

 

 Kim Newmyer is a songwriter and worship leader whose whole heart recently tapped into the deep love of Father God and the empowerment of Christ in her life.  She sings , mentors, and testifies of His abilifying nature in her daily life of being wife to a therapist, mother of two preschool daughters, and working full-time.

 

P E A R L Couture

Def.
n. cou-ture (koo-toor,) High fashion designing and fashioning

Welcome to Pearl-o-logy.  We are a group of women blogging and testifying of the deep love of the one true God and His son, Jesus Christ.  We know God as the one who fashioned us, despite all our imperfections. In fact it is here on Pearl-o-logy that you will read our stories of imperfections and the incredible grace and love of the one who knew us before the foundation of the world.  We (and you) are His unique idea and this delights him.  We call it Pearl Couture. 

"He had the idea of you. And He liked it. So He planted you in your momma's womb, knowing you would have difficulties in this life. But He has lovingly brought you through to tell you He is passionate about your presence and purpose in the world.  You are a pearl of great worth. Always. Period." ( Pearl by Roxanna Grimes)

The mission of Pearl Couture is to help a girl, woman, or mother discover she is Valued, Lovingly Designed, Fashioned by God, and possesses lasting purpose.  He wants to help her find lasting value in the midst of lingering pain.  Her identity is not found in her issues.  Her identity flows out of the heart of God and into her heart when she turns toward Him.

When you turn your heart toward Him, you discover who you really are.

Pearl Couture seeks to provide opportunities for girls to find their value and identity through the healing love of God in order to gain a passionate, confident core moving toward His purposes.

Misunderstandings about God and personal insecurities are formed from betrayals and hurts, serving to be bait for the enemy to use against her soul and all her relationships, especially the one with Jesus.

  The message of Pearl Couture seeks to penetrate the betrayals and hurts through His written word, loving presence, and prayer focused mentoring with the end goal of establishing God's daughters in their God-given value and identity.  This is being offered in workshop settings, teaching, coaching, and life skill training at The Relationship Warehouse and available for various church settings. (Call The Relationship Warehouse to find out about hosting a Pearl Couture retreat or workshop.949-482-2233)

Rooted and Grounded

I ask God from the wealth of his glory to give you power through his Spirit to be strong in your inner selves, and I pray that Christ will make his home in your hearts through faith. I pray that you may have your roots and foundation in love......and have the power to understand how broad and long, how high and deep, is Christ's love. Yes, may you come to know his love....and be completely filled with the very nature of God. Ephesians 3:16-19 (GNB) 

 

Endurance

by Sydney

 

My pearl journey began with several parasites..many I couldn't control. I used to ask God what I did to deserve my circumstances. There were times where I asked him why my daddy seemed to forget his little girl. I asked him why my mommy wouldn't give me attention I wanted. My unmet needs led me to question the one who was in control of all things. If he had so much control and he loved me, why would any of these things happen? Why wouldn't I feel loved, attended to, or cared for? Surely there must be something wrong with my God. Maybe he's forgotten about me, too. What I didn't know is that he was teaching me endurance. Endurance and discipline go hand-in-hand. If you don't have the discipline to walk things out with Jesus, endurance is impossible without him. The events that took place when I was a young girl were my training. Divorce, fighting, moving, molestation, and abandonment.. None of these things I did to myself, but I still endured. The Lord allows imperfect things to happen in my life to help sustain me, to train me. He doesn't want me to just survive my life, he wants me to thrive! I can easily count myself as a victim to these terrible things and let myself be swallowed up by self-pity, but I know that I am not a victim. The world likes to live by the phrase, "Everything happens for a reason".. Sounds catchy, sounds just deep enough to be tossed around after difficult things in life come our way. But I think as Christians we should always go back to Romans 8:28 "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose." (NIV) I think we mistake the first phrase with this important verse in Romans. No, he doesn't  let certain events take place to necessarily punish us as his followers. Everything we endure passes his hand before it comes down to us, nothing is without his consent. And it may be hard to understand why our God would let rape, abortion, murder, and other terrible things happen in this life. But we also have a very real and active enemy that can influence our lives as well.. Perhaps he allows us to understand and experience what it's like to live in a fallen world. As fallen & finite humans, we won't ever come to the full understanding of an infinite and eternal God. But we can trust that it's for our good. Endurance happens when you step into a place that says YES to Jesus and NO to Satan; When you acknowledge yourself not as a victim, but a daughter of the Most High. His purposes will be fulfilled if we push through and "run with perseverance the race marked out for us," Hebrews 12:1

 

 

Pearlology is committed to speaking the deep love of Father God into every girl, woman, and child.  It doesn't matter how broken you are or how far you have wandered in search of love. Real love still lives, seeks, and finds the feminine heart to love her, value her, and present her as His own unique, valuable, and delightful idea. Real love. Love that stays. Love that rescues.  Love that reclaims and restores.  Love that sees you. Love that says, You are meant to be.